People Pleaser Test: Answer These Questions To Discover If You Put Other’s Needs Ahead Of Your Own
Think you’re a People Pleaser, but not 100% sure that this is you. Well, answer the following twenty questions to discover if you are putting other’s needs ahead of your own. There is a huge difference between being kind and people pleasing so this will help you get some answers.
When I first discovered I was people pleasing I was a little shocked at my discovery. Here I was an ambitious woman working hard towards my dreams, going against the grain but when I looked a little closer I found that I wasn’t actually going after my dream I was working for others, proving my self-worth and a whole bunch of other real depressing discoveries. Luckily I worked it out because from then I have course-corrected to put my magic back out into the world and it’s changed my life. From moving to Scotland from Australia, to writing a book to growing a thriving online community. I’m living my dream life.
So let’s help you to get there too.
People Pleaser Test
Answer the next twenty questions to find out if you are a people pleaser – simply record a tally of all the ‘yes’ responses to each question. And remember be honest with yourself. There is no point avoiding a cringe-worthy yes when there is a way out of this pattern you currently find yourself in. So be true so you can learn what is really going on.
ANSWER: Yes or No to each question…
I find it challenging to share and communicate my wants and needs. Yes/No
I often bury my feelings, desires and dreams. Yes/No
I walk on eggshells in order to keep everyone happy. Yes/No
I go out of my way to help others even though I need help myself. Yes/No
I say “yes” a lot, when I really want to say “no.” Yes/No
I feel guilty when I do say “no.” Yes/No
I worry about hurting others’ feelings. Yes/No
I constantly worry about what I said or did and what the outcome might be. Yes/No
I think I know what others will “say” or “do” in certain situations. Yes/No
I get upset when someone gives me criticism. Yes/No
If I get insulted or ignored I prefer to let it go than to raise attention to it. Yes/No
And if I do stand up for myself I feel embarrassed and anxious. Yes/No
Conflict makes me feel uncomfortable. Yes/No
It hurts my feelings when others don’t say “thank you” or appreciate me. Yes/No
I say, “I’m sorry,” whenever I might have offended someone. Yes/No
I am easily talked into things that please other people, but don’t please me Yes/No
I feel like a doormat and that I am being used. Yes/No
I feel like I need to ask for permission to do certain things. Yes/No
I dont share the truth if I think it will hurt someone. Yes/No
I have no problem asking a stranger for directions if I’m lost. Yes/No
How Many Yes’s did you get?
Tally them up and find out how far you go to please others. And if you want to take your self-discovery journey one step further, take the People Pleaser Personality quiz with useful insights to help you to ditch the need to please and start living.
