Laying the Foundations for Slow Living with Rachelle Glendon

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On today’s episode of the Wild Success Podcast is Rachelle Glendon and we dive into the topic of Slow Living, the foundation pieces to create a slow life and what that actually means how to be in the moment and practice presence. Rachelle is a coach and the host of How to Live Slow Podcast. She’s a wife, a mom, and a reformed overachiever. Who’s learned the long way that fulfilling her life isn’t just ticking off the to-do list or reaching milestones.

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Joining me on the show today is Rachelle Glendon. She’s a coach and the host of How to Live Slow Podcast, all to help women slow down, take stock and show up for everything that matters to them. She’s a wife, a mom, and a reformed overachiever. Who’s learned the long way that fulfilling her life isn’t just ticking off the to-do list or reaching milestones. In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the foundation pieces to living a slow life and what that actually means how to be in the moment and practice presence.

Lizzie:

Hey Rochelle. Thank you so much for joining me on the show today. How are you? 

Rachelle:

I’m good. Liz. Thanks. It’s good to be here. 

Lizzie:

I love anyone who lives a slow life and I’m so excited for our conversation today. Do you want to spend a second just sharing who you are, what it is you do and how you got to where you are today? 

Rachelle:

Yeah, as Liz said, I’m Rachelle. I am a mom of two young boys. We are just gearing up for next year, our first year of school. They are quite little five and two. My husband and I have a business we’ve worked from home for the last eight years. 


I first got into slow living. Well I guess I probably called myself a minimalist before I had the kids. Just when we first moved in together, 10 years ago I had a house full of stuff. He had a house full of stuff and we squashed it all together into this one apartment and realized, hang on a second. Life’s better when you have less stuff. Yeah, there really wasn’t a lot of sustainability and green eco-friendly products and all of that. And I was at university full-time. I was working full time. We were trying to run our business. My husband said, Hey, let’s have kids. We weren’t married at the time. I call him my husband, but yeah, we weren’t married at the time. I just remember going, there is no way that I can add kids to this mix. As I was like, looking into, okay, well, how’s this going to work? I finished uni and started working like more full-time in the area that I wanted to work in, which was supply chain management. 

I realized that this is actually, maybe not what it’s cut out to be for me. We started to work towards how can I start working in the business? How can we create a bit more flexibility? We wanted to travel a lot and all this other stuff. Also still being really attached to the idea of being a minimalist. I came across this guy called Carl Honoré and he spoke about slow living. I also came across Brooke McAlary, who is also a big into slow living. Like I came across her podcast, Slow your Home, two big inspirations. They were talking about minimalism, but more like how it can apply to your whole life and disconnecting from this hustle culture and how that can actually be the most fulfilling version of life. The kids came along and I was like, Hey, this slow living thing is really good because I can feel really well. 

Like I’m showing up well as a mom and not feeling the pressure to achieve all of those life things that you’re supposed to do, get back to work, have your body bounce back and all these other things. Long story short, that’s how I kind of got into slow living at the start. 

Lizzie:

You know how funny I love Brooke. She’s amazing. I was following her back when I had my blog Strayed from the Table. Oh gosh. That was many years ago when we were writing sustainable living. What is your definition of slow living? Cause I know that so many people have a different idea of what it is, but I’d love to hear yours. 

Rachelle:

Well to me, slow living, I like to talk about it as how it relates to mums. For me, slow living is all about slowing down and honoring your own priorities as a mum so that you can be that mom that you envisioned.
You can show up well as a mum, but also have your own, other things that go on in your life as well and not have that mum guilt and burn out and that societal pressure. It’s disengaging from all of that slow living as a whole, for me is all about understanding your priorities and prioritizing rest, but also doing everything as well as you can, rather than as fast as you can. That’s what Carl Honoré says, which I really connect with. I like to do things well. Yeah. Do fewer things and do them well rather than fast, which is in our digital world where we feel the pressure to get everything done really quickly. That is a really rare thing to do. I think, using those skills, isn’t it like one of the things, I think we’re really blessed in the era that we grew up as like having that space and creativity to be able to do what we like and practice some of the things that we want to do, like, learning an instrument, one thing or getting each right, practicing that, like do it well, like what’s your thing, whereas yeah. 

Lizzie:
Yeah. It’s just all in the process, right? Like you said, like with an instrument, you’re never going to get to a point where you get a hundred percent score done. You’ve got to enjoy the learning process rather than feeling, and you’ll never arrive. Right. They’ll always be more, they’ll always be more to learn to do. Yeah. So those little moments throughout the journey. Yeah. Yeah. The thing isn’t, it’s such a journey and I love, understanding your priorities because I think so many of us, moms, like my next six and for this so many times it’s like, Oh my gosh, I wish I had more time prioritizing mates. Today, like I went into the lighthouse, walk in Byron Bay was like, what, I’m just going to take the morning to reset because it was a crazy day yesterday. I’m like having that, it was only an hour and a half.
I was away from, my usual regime and it was just such a blessing. I know there’s a big element of, as you said, guilt.

Rachelle:

 Yeah yeah. Mum code is, it’s like this pressure that we put on ourselves to have everything, do everything, sacrifice, everything, not have our own needs work, more work, less work. Like we don’t have kids be a mum, like we don’t work and all of this other stuff. So yeah. It really takes it away from your enjoyment of life. Social media really has a big role to play in that. Yeah. Yeah. I believe so. I think with social media, it really depends, like a lot of stuff. Particularly with slowly being or any kind of counter-culture lifestyle, when you are trying to make these dangers, it can feel like a lot of pressure from social media, but you can actually cure out your social media to enhance what you want to know. 

You can unfollow these pressure builders like news articles and influences that are completely, I mean, that’s not real life. Yeah. Well, it’s following more of what you do, like right. Like you and I love to travel. I definitely have trouble books that I follow. I’m like, Oh wow. Look at that place. It inspires me to want that. I also know that it’s my pressure that tomorrow I need to be there. Yeah. I think that’s the good thing about social media. You can use it in a way that really enhances your enjoyment of life, but also it’s really good to disconnect from it sometimes as well. Remember that your digital life is only one part of your life. Mm yes. 

Lizzie:

So important. What are the foundation, do you feel for someone starting towards living a slow life? 

Rachelle:
So I’ve got like four pillars I’ve identified and it’s almost like they kind of build on each other. I talk about them in my program. Each module is one pillar and the first one is to do less. We have these attachments to being busy. Sometimes it’s not even an attachment. It’s being busy as an escape route to not dealing with the things that we need to deal with. 

Lizzie:

Almost like procrastination, Not to say that I’m so busy. 

Rachelle:
Yeah. Yeah. We can be really busy doing things that aren’t actually that important. I think that’s where burnout comes into play and overwhelmed because we’re doing stuff that actually doesn’t make us feel good, but we’re doing it so that we can get to the stuff that feels good, but we never really finished doing the, all the, to deuce. I think it’s about again, like understanding your priorities, holding your boundaries, learning how to say no, all this stuff and prioritizing rest, which is actually a really productive use of time counter intuitively. I say like, the next thing to do is need less. That’s the other pillar, which has got to do with obviously needing lists. That minimalism stuff like it’s about, spending less money living within your means and disengaging from that pressure to have a certain kind of car or a certain kind of house in a certain kind of suburb, certain kinds of clothes, all of these things that we pick up, lots of fashion and beauty industry stuff as well. 

Needing less, being less influenced by sales and marketing stuff. However it shows up for you. The next one is we move on to like enhancing life. It’s like being more and this is all about being present and showing up well as the wife or the mom or the employee or the friend that you want to be, learning how to be in the present moment, which is actually, and this is why it’s the third step because you can’t actually, I mean, the present moment is always there, but so much of what we do in our lives is out of habit. We’re really distracted and disengaged with our lives, using the usual example of driving in your car and not really remembering the drive because you’re an automatic pilot, but actually a lot of our life is that way, out of habit, we do so much. We think the same thoughts. 

We do the same things. We have the same stories every single day and it’s all a habit. We feel resentful out of habit, whatever, so it’s all about learning how to be more present. There’s also strategies on how to do that. The final pillar is living more, which has got to do with learning to manage your language and how you speak about, the way that you speak and the words that you use create your experience of life. Becoming really aware of what you’re saying, but also giving yourself permission to live life, the way that you want to live it. In the first pillar, we talk about understanding what your priorities are. In the final pillar, we start to talk about, well, we might say our priority, we have attachments to what our priorities should be. We live to what we think we should be doing, particularly as moms, like we think we should be, there’s a list, laundry list, as long as your arm, but in the live room pillar, it’s all about learning to, if everything’s a priority, nothing’s a priority. 

Being okay with accepting what you say is important to you as being what’s important and not letting other influences distract you from that. It’s becoming much more embodied in who you are and how you want to show up and what your life will look like. So that’s my four sort of pillars. There’s like, FOMO plays a role in your engagement with time. You know, there’s so much to it. Oh my goodness. 

Lizzie:
I love all of those. Like and it’s really interesting. The first one for me, I was just like, I actually wrote time next to him. I could do less equals more time. Yeah exactly. Yeah. It’s creating that space of like, 

Rachelle:
Well, what’s my priorities and what do I actually love and want to do? Yeah. When it comes to time, I think it’s really fascinating because with somewhat attached to 24 hour time, we have these stories, like everyone’s only got 24 hours in their life in their day and everyone’s the same. Actually before the industrial revolution, we didn’t live to a clock. Humans lived to their cycles and what time of day it was and when they felt hungry, they ate. 

Lizzie:

When they were tired, they rested and it might be time for bed, really simple.

Rachelle:
Exactly. I think that when you get that kind of flow time, when you can access more of that time, I think it really does open up new possibilities for disengaging from that. What’s the time or I’ve got no time left, I’ve got to hurry kind of, it’s pretty cool. 

Lizzie:

I love all of these. Do less, need less being more and living more. This is slowl living people, fear of missing out. Cause I think we’ve touched on this subject a couple of times as you said, influencers and social media, like it can be really crippling. It can be really crippling. 

Rachelle:

Yeah. There’s so many particularly for parents or I shouldn’t keep saying, particularly for parents, even if you’re working and you’re working towards a particular career goal or you’ve got a business and you want to talk about a particular topic, but there’s someone so much further ahead than you that can really influence your ability to take action. I think that you think of FOMO is just people posting a photo on Instagram of them doing something amazing. You’re like, Oh, but I’m not doing that. My life’s way more boring or my relationships aren’t as good as that. FOMO is like, you can really extend it to be so much. You’re in your journey to slow living. 

Lizzie:

What’s been your biggest learning experience? 

Rachelle:

I think that for slow living and for any lifestyle choice, really, it really is adaptable to the place that you’re in and it will always change. 

I think when you place rigid rules on yourself about what things should look like, that’s when you’re going to get stuck. I know in minimalism, there’s like some people who say that you should only own a certain amount of things or, you should only have a certain size home or it should all be white or whatever. There’s too many rules for that in each phase of your life’s journey. You have another kid, things will change or if you get married or you separate or whatever, if you get a different job or you move cities, it’s all going to change. And it’s all really adaptable. I think that’s really important to not be too rigid in your opinions and your beliefs.

Lizzie:

 It sounds like you’re a bit of a rule breaker.

Rachelle:

 Well, I’m trying to be actually, it’s something that I aspire to do. I aspire to live differently, but to be honest, I sometimes feel like I’m stuck in the same cage of my own beliefs, but you’ll learn as well, 

Lizzie:

which I love 100%. 

Rachelle:
Yeah. I definitely would never say that I do slow living perfectly or that my way is the only way or the best way. That’s, what’s so beautiful about slow living is that it’s really adaptable to you. You can try, I think there’s no one out there saying, hang on, you’re not doing it right. If you don’t want to do all of those four steps, you don’t have to, you can just learn how to hold more boundaries and be a bit more responsible with your time. You could say that’s, I’m trying to live a bit slower. There’s nothing that says that it has to be done a certain way. Going back, like slow living really is about honoring self and acknowledging what it is you love and the things that are important to you. 

Lizzie:

Yeah absolutely. Yeah. And to me, it’s just the conduit. It’s just the way to get there. 

So many of us want that. Right. We want to be living to our values and we want to be showing up as a certain kind of person and slow living is just a way to get there. Yeah. Yes. Yeah. Sorry. My final, big question for you. What would you tell your 16 year old self? 

Rachelle:

Oh 16. I mean, 16 is such a hard year, I think for all of us. You’ve put me not on the spot, but yet I think about who I was at 16 and all of that, anticipation of nearly finishing high school and almost being an adult, but still having to live, like a child kind of thing, and just waiting for my life to begin. I say, what be in this moment because this moment is what you look back and go. I wish that I was more there. 

I think that’s true for any moment along life’s path. Same as when you’ve got a little baby that’s not sleeping. You’re just like, Oh, I wish I can’t wait till I can sit up. Oh, I can’t wait till I can walk when you do that, when you can’t wait for the next stage, that’s when I think you can start to regret, wishing away your days, same as like when you’ve got a holiday to look forward to and you’re like, Oh, I can’t wait. I’ll be happy. I’ll relax then. Same thing. I think actually what you’ve got to do is figure out how to enjoy this moment. 

Lizzie:

That’s powerful. Thank you. I can really, it’s like, you just taken me back to my 16 year old self and I remember like slow down. I’m like, yeah, I want to be 21 already. Goodness. I mean, we would say that to our 16 year old.
It was, but they’re not going to listen, but maybe possible what a few years. Maybe we got to our 18-21 maybe self and like, Hey, like slow down practice with presence and be in this moment. Yeah. So powerful. Rochelle did you have anything else you wanted to add on slowly moving at all before we wrap up? 

Rachelle:

Oh, just to say, yeah, don’t be afraid to try it. Do a few little things here or there and slowly being, isn’t being lazy. It’s not about doing nothing, slow living is doing it. Well I know I’ve talked about that a lot, but I think there’s a misconception that slow living is for introverts or people who don’t want to leave the house or that it makes you lazy. It’s just not, it’s actually a really important step if you want to be more creative or more ambitious is to slow down and actually figure out what your next right step, rather than just doing all the things. 

That’s what I would love to leave you with and to say thank you very much for having me on the show. 

Lizzie:

Thank you so much for being here. Awesome guests. Thank you. Thank you so much.

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